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Tuesday, January 16, 2007
I watched you change…
Yesterday, in my car, on my way to school. I was listening to the radio when I suddenly heard a song so dear to me. It sounded different somehow, but still, the same song I came to love. Ten Sharp, “You”, a remix of some sort.

I did not know if I liked it more ore less. I felt its change, the fact is was no longer how I used to know it. Someone had altered it. And I got to thinking of relationships. They do to us what had been done to that song: they change us, adding their mark, some of them forever.

When a relationship has ended and you indulge yourself in extensive self analyzing, born out of anguish, fear, self-doubt, the feeling you need to find the weak link in your soul and remove it, that is the moment when you realize you only partially recognize yourself. Parts of you are altered by the experience, someone else has left their traces in your spirit and mind. Do you like yourself more? Do you like yourself less? Do you feel like rejecting the change altogether because most of us fear it? The reaction depends on personal circumstances. But the reality of the metamorphosis cannot be denied.

That is what people do to each other. When close, they touch each others souls, they borrow and lend certain traits, stain and are stained. Something alien finds its way in and starts altering what it encounters. Repeated experiences with people take us from one stage to another, pushing us to evolve in a certain direction. The evolution is compulsory, all we can choose is the direction.

In other news, I have posted some more photos from Topkapi here and here. New Year's party and Part 3 will be ready soon. In the mean time, don't forget to vote for me here. Also, take a look at this post on Girl's Blogosphere Club and tell me what you think.
posted by Alina @ 3:42 PM  
  • At 1/17/2007 9:45 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…


    Here are my thoughts

    Marcus Aurelius wrote a sort of preamble to his Mediations about the people in his life. In this text he mentioned all the people that have affected him and what he learned from each one of them.

    Alina, I think you are right that we all have a sort of influence on one another and to some degree change each other. I have learned so many things from so many people and have been changed by them. From my best friend, I learned to research the hell out of anything before you buy. This goes for ideas too, since everyone these days is trying to sell you ideas left and right. From my mother I learned strength and weakness, two things that everyone should know and understand about themselves. From my grandma I learned that no matter what happens, you can be optimistic if you choose to. She has the perspective of an orphan that grew up in a communist country. From my past relationships I learned how important relationships are and how they should be cared for.

    I think what is most important is that we all try to influence each other in a good way. Ohh and a song I really love is Seal’s – Love’s Devine. It too has changed in meaning for me, but it still makes me smile when it reminds of what it used to mean once. =) <~~'smile'

  • At 1/18/2007 6:07 AM, Blogger Alina said…

    It is true, new things learned and small changed come from all relationships. But when we speak of love, I guess the perspective is a little changed, because you share at a different level in some cases.

    Seal's song is simply beautiful. And yes, if you like a song for long enough, the meanings change in time.

  • At 1/18/2007 8:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Your right of course.

    When you love, I mean really love someone, its like you give yourself over to them. Its as if you place yourself in their palm and trust them with the care of your affection. In a way you become more than yourself by doing this. I guess in a way you absorb the other person and they absorb you. I know I can’t really explain how it feels. But to me it’s almost like the other person is really not there anymore. They are of course, but you've become so comfortable with them that you don’t notice it any longer. It’s as if you put all your guards down and bear yourself.

    And that’s when the change happens. I mean, you certainly can’t leave an imprint on a cement street. But if you touch the earth underneath, you can leave your print forever (sort of). Its an analogy that sorta works =).
    Well I wish I could argue with you or say something profoundly interesting, but all I ended up doing is saying what you said all over again. =)

    Nice post btw.

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