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Thursday, October 06, 2005
Update – On being polite
This morning in the subway train a similar incident happened. You must know that at every stop, there is a crowd pushing you to get out of the trains, as if everyone is afraid they’ll remain inside. Today, a woman decided she should punish someone for it, so she turned to the girl right behind her and started pulling her hair really hard. Of course other people reacted and the girl reacted as well by starting to swear. The woman thought it would be a good idea to do the same thing: swear.

Again, the girl was not right to use such slang, yet what are you supposed to do when you get abused just because you are the first of a crowd pushing to step out of the train?
posted by Alina @ 3:58 PM  
22 Comments:
  • At 10/06/2005 8:26 PM, Blogger tota said…

    that's so bad ... but it happens everywhere ,, it's just the pressure of the life

     
  • At 10/06/2005 8:26 PM, Blogger tota said…

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  • At 10/06/2005 8:32 PM, Blogger Alina said…

    True, Tota, I also suspect there is something mallicious in the air...Or something! People are reacting very weird these days.

     
  • At 10/06/2005 10:06 PM, Blogger Deb S. said…

    In the U.S., it seems as if rude behavior is quickly becoming the norm in some situations. Hopefully, that is not the case in Romania.

     
  • At 10/06/2005 10:24 PM, Blogger Wonderer said…

    I agree with tota that the pressure of life is pushing the people to behave in a very weird way these days.

     
  • At 10/06/2005 11:04 PM, Blogger bart said…

    unfortunately, i fear it's a tendency all through the "civilised" world at the moment... the levels of stress and lack of well being are starting to drive people nuts, with all the attendant self-centred and rude behaviour...

     
  • At 10/07/2005 2:01 AM, Blogger Me said…

    It happens here in Egypt too Kayla :( But you know what...when you react to negative actions with positive ones ... it has an amazing effect... I mean the person who might've been swearing ends up thinking "Ooops maybe I over reacted and the situation doesn't deserve all that" ... it doesn't always work .. but worth giving a try

     
  • At 10/07/2005 6:25 AM, Blogger Alina said…

    DCS, it's been the case in Romania for some time now...

    Wonderer & Bart, these might be causes for such behavior, yet never a good enough excuse.

    Me, I always try to calm down things if I'm involved. Others think it's fighting evil with evil.

     
  • At 10/07/2005 7:36 PM, Blogger doshar said…

    wow.. i feel so naive... reading your story, my eyebrows shot up at the part of the woman pulling the girl's hair.. couldn't beleive it, then i see everyone here say it is the norm!!! wow

    i know people can be a bit rough, they can take their aggression verbally, they can push back, but something so offensive and direct is wierd.

    where is the patience?

     
  • At 10/07/2005 10:10 PM, Blogger Alina said…

    Doshar, considering what I see around me these days, people are really running out of patience. It's not fair, it's not right, it is weird and offensive, yet it happens.

     
  • At 10/07/2005 10:45 PM, Blogger Shirazi said…

    Dont let it happen. Never. Wjay ever you need to do!

     
  • At 10/08/2005 1:01 AM, Blogger Charismatic Soul said…

    patience isnt a trait ppl have now a days, i myself and very impatient, but i would never pull someone's hair!
    thats beyond rude.

    kayla, take care of these nasty women!

     
  • At 10/08/2005 5:59 AM, Blogger loloma said…

    Unbelievable as it may sound (just kidding ;) these sort of things happen here as well. Only a couple of months back one guy was seriously injured after being pushed by another guy. If I'm not mistaken he was actually pushed off the train platform onto the tracks... The perpetrator seems to have gotten angry with the victim because the latter had accidentally touched him while getting off the train.

    As for the usual politeness of Japanese men (not women, they are much nicer), don't even get me started! :(

     
  • At 10/08/2005 6:44 PM, Blogger Paul said…

    I say the world would be better off if that woman would just stay home and rub mint.

    Or enlarge donut holes. I thought of that one myself. Any good? Is it ok to just invent them like that?

    As for me, this afternoon I will do some housekeeping - probably just dust my walls...

     
  • At 10/08/2005 9:25 PM, Blogger Tarek said…

    The problem is that people should have some common sense and wait for those inside to get out beforegetting in the train, elevator, or anything. However this is what they call croud culure as people tend to push the others and speak loudly

     
  • At 10/09/2005 9:46 AM, Blogger Alina said…

    Shi, when I'm involved I try to handle things as diplomaticaly as I can. But it hasn't happened to me in years...It's just around me.

    CS, we need a lot of patience to handle our times. And this is exactly what lacks.

    Loloma, seems the Japanese are as touchy as Romanians are!

    True Paul, perfecting her mint rubbing technique would have helped. As for the donut hole, that's a good one. Of course you can invent such things, for fun. Ours have been invented a long time ago and are still very accurate! :))

    Tarek, this is only about people pushing to get out of the train, bus, tram..Don't even get me started on what a struggle there is when you want step out. Those trying to get in are always in such hurry...

     
  • At 10/11/2005 3:46 PM, Blogger Bokbok said…

    yet what are you supposed to do when you get abused just because you are the first of a crowd pushing to step out of the train?

    she'll see stars on broad daylight! haha!

    how are you my dear?
    ;)

     
  • At 10/11/2005 4:10 PM, Blogger Alina said…

    True Boks, she might see them! :))

    I'm great, how are you? Feeling better I hope!

     
  • At 10/11/2005 7:55 PM, Blogger Bokbok said…

    yeah kayla, thanks!

    you're so sweet, really...

    ;)

     
  • At 10/11/2005 8:24 PM, Blogger Alina said…

    Thanks, Boks! But please stop it, I will get to be too proud of myself! :))

     
  • At 10/12/2005 5:51 AM, Blogger haal said…

    It is the fear of being stuck and the fear and annoyance of being pushed all the time. Some kind of struggle I suppose

     
  • At 10/12/2005 7:06 AM, Blogger Alina said…

    Yes, people are pushed all the time and they might get tired ot it. But still, taking it out on someone who might be as tired of it as you are is not one of your rights.

     
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